FREE IS SHE

Dear World Changer,

The term “freedom” is defined as: “The power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint.” Freedom is the ability to do what you want without anyone or anything standing in your way and holding you back.

Do you ever feel like you are being held back? That you are captive to someone or something and if you could just break free all would be well? I have. BUT, today I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to live in captivity!

A couple of years ago while I was praying with my team in El Salvador, I had a vision of a young girl. She was a mess; completely broken in every way. She was carrying heavy chains on her shoulders that wrapped all around her arms and down her body. My heart immediately broke for this girl that I did not know. I watched her struggle to carry these chains around with her everywhere she went.

I asked God why she was bound and how she could gain her freedom. His response to me was this:

“I have given her the opportunity to be free. Now it is her turn to make a move. She must choose to drop her chains and leave them behind her.”

The answer to my question wrecked me. I looked back at the girl in my vision again and I realized there was nothing stopping her from dropping the heaviness that held her down; absolutely nothing forcing her to carry this burden. Her chains were actually BROKEN! All she had to do was let them go.

I began to sob and cry out to Jesus.

Because this girl was ME.

And this girl was so many others around me.

In that moment with Jesus, when I opened my heart and my eyes to see this incredible truth that he revealed, my life was changed forever.

I finally understood what it meant to be free.

And today, I share this story with you to remind you that YOU TOO can be free! You already are!

Easter is all about celebrating the sacrifice Christ made for us. It is all about the fight for our freedom – for YOUR freedom – that ended in victory.

THE MOMENT Christ died on that cross, you were given the opportunity to be free.

THE MOMENT you chose to give your life to Christ, your chains were instantly broken.

Jesus made a way!

But maybe you’re like me and haven’t dropped those chains yet. Or maybe you have dropped them but you have also picked them back up again. Maybe you have dropped them but you frequently forget the truth of that action and how that impacts your whole identity.. Whatever the reason for your restraint, it is possible to be free. This freedom is real and tangible and available and YOURS. But it is up to YOU. No one else can accept it on your behalf. YOU are the one Christ died for; YOU are the one whose chains he broke; and YOU are the one who has to let go and live free.

Christ DIED so that we could LIVE. My mind is blown every single time I think about that! And I pray that you are amazed by that as well. I hope that as you stand in awe of your Saviour and what he has done for you that you begin to take the first steps in letting those chains fall to the ground for good. If you are unsure of how to begin dropping those chains that have bound you for so long, I encourage you to find someone to guide you and help you. Asking for assistance is not a sign of weakness, it is actually a testament to your strength. It requires a lot for someone to make themselves vulnerable and let someone in who could potentially judge or harm them. The beauty of this though, is that they also hold the potential to uplift you and help you heal. Talk to Jesus – he knows you want to let go but don’t know how. And talk to someone else who is a few steps ahead of you in this ‘letting go’ journey. No one is perfect, and the battle to leave those chains on the ground is ongoing, but don’t give up! Freedom is yours – Christ has already given it to you.

I wrote a piece a couple years back for Radiate 2015 titled “Free Is She.” Some of you may have read this already, but it is a great reminder for anyone struggling to live the life Christ died for, or anyone just surrendering to the wonder of his love. As you read this, remember that the “she” is YOU, my friend. You are loved. You are beautiful. You are strong. You are fighting the good fight and doing it well – I’m so proud of you! You may be broken but you are not done.

Because Jesus broke so you could be whole.

He wants to pick up your broken pieces and turn them into a gorgeous mosaic – so let him. Lose the restraints; drop the chains. As sinners, you and I do not deserve this beautiful gift of love and grace – but do not be deceived, you are worthy. This gift is yours but you have to accept it. Darling, you may be broken, but you are free! Your Saviour is just waiting for you to invite him to heal you and put your shattered pieces together in a work of art that brings him glory. You are lovely; you are strong; you are brave; you are fierce. YOU are a Daughter of the Light. And YOU have the “power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint.”

YOU are RADIANT.

Please do not ever give up on the life of freedom you desire. It is yours to live and it is yours to share! Christ died so that you could live.

Happy Easter, my radiant sister.

 

Love always,  

Charity xo

 

 

FREE IS SHE

For she was once darkness but now she is light in the Lord. She walks as a child of the light.

Free is she who accepts the gift He has offered to her. Free is she who allows His love to be present in her every moment. Free is she who embraces grace and lives like she is redeemed. She remembers the words spoken on the cross, just before His final breath. He said, “It is finished.” He was speaking to her broken heart and her wounded soul. He was giving her the opportunity to experience absolute freedom. Three simple words that said, “She is redeemed. She is forgiven. She is new. She is whole. She is mine. I love her. She is free.” She cannot earn His love but it is a gift of grace that He desperately longs to lavish her with.

Free is she who lets her knees hit the ground at the foot of the cross and abandons her personal desires. Free is she who humbles herself to her Saviour and submits her heart and her life to His perfect will. She knows that tomorrow’s freedom is today’s surrender. Letting go is the only way her bondage will be broken.

Free is she who chooses to put her past behind her and look ahead. Free is she who allows His blood and sacrifice to cover her mistakes. Free is she who confesses her sin and then drowns herself in His forgiveness. She allows Him to transform her life and turn her world upside down. Nothing in all creation will be able to separate her from His love. The enemy under her feet has no control over her. She is victorious in His Almighty Name.

She never keeps the good news to herself because free is she to share her hope. Free is she to speak life over the dead and reveal a way to the lost. Free is she to empower others. She is an ambassador of Christ. She is a disciple privileged with the task of shaping more disciples. She cannot save but she can lead. A child of the light is she who believes in her mission.

Free is she to pursue the calling He has on her life. Free is she to dream big and be brave. Free is she to fearlessly walk the unbeaten path. He has unique plans for her. He wants to use her to further His Kingdom. He has put dreams in her heart that she will never give up on. He has immeasurably more for her than all she could think or imagine. Free is she to spread her wings and soar for she is called to a life of greatness.

Free is she to rise up and take a stand against injustice. Free is she to make a difference and change her world. He placed her in her exact position for a reason. He has not given her a spirit of fear but of love, peace, and a sound mind. He has equipped her with His strength and all that she needs to carry out His purpose.

Free is she to drop her cool and show kindness to those around her. Free is she to be genuine in her love of the lost and the found. He has given her a tender heart and a gentle spirit. Her sweet kindness will impact the lives of many.

Free is she to be herself. Free is she to love who He has made her to be. His love is poured out for who she is, not who she wishes to be. Free is she who refuses to judge and compare herself. She is fearfully and wonderfully made. She has been created in His image and He is beautiful.

Free is she to live for an audience of One. Free is she to build her character and grow her inner beauty. Charm is deceptive and outward beauty is fleeting but she who fears the Lord is to be praised. She is worth more than rubies. His opinion of her is all that matters.

Free is she to take her place in the royal family. A dress won’t make her a princess and jewels won’t make her a queen. She has been chosen and she had been adopted. She is a daughter of the King. She will not allow herself to be treated with disrespect because she deserves the best. He has someone for her and in His timing love will awaken. Free is she to never settle. Free is she to know her worth. Free is she to be known by her true name. She is the bride of Christ above all.

Free is she who chooses His praises to ever be on her lips even when life gets tough. Free is she who worships the Name above all names even when no one else understands it. Free is she to pray bold and courageous prayers. Free is she who whispers, “Thank you for giving me breath today.” Free is she who stands back up no matter how many times she is knocked down. Free is she to crawl and let Him carry her when she cannot walk another step. Free is she to approach Him as she is. Free is she to show Him her scars. He promises to never leave her. He promises to always hear her cry and catch her tears. He promises to comfort her and give her strength. He promises to never shy away from her brokenness. Free is she to put her trust in His promises. She can count on Him – the waves and wind still know His name. Free is she to believe it is well with her soul. He is her anchor and He is faithful. People will leave her lonely but His love never fails her.

Free is she to laugh. Free is she to dance. Free is she to spread love and joy, peace and hope. She has found a love that cannot be destroyed. She has found a joy that can never be taken away. She has found a peace that is greater than all fear. She has found a hope that lights every difficult circumstance. She is sinking in the amazing grace of her Heavenly Father.

Free is she to live without shame. Free is she to be filled with joy at the sight of her chains hitting the ground. Free is she to choose to leave her chains on the floor forever. She is no longer bound. She is no longer dead. She is no longer just existing. She is ALIVE. He died so she could have life and have it to the full. He has set her free!

Free is she to walk in complete surrender. Free is she to LIVE in total freedom. Free is she to embrace her identity as a child of the light. Free is she to radiate.

Free is she.

 

Dealing With Haters

Dear World Changer,

In today’s society, “haters” have become so normalized. We hear about dealing with haters in songs and media, “haters gonna hate” or however it goes. This doesn’t change the fact that when faced with a hater, it hurts when they attack something close to you.

When I was in elementary school, people used to call me names. They would say things like church girl, Jesus freak, or holy kid. I never got invited to sleepovers on a Saturday night because they knew I would have to leave super early for church the next day.

When the kids played truth or dare on the playground, I was never included because they thought I was “too innocent” or “too holy” to participate in all the games. People would get freaked out when I knew all the words to the service we held in the gymnasium, I was even more ridiculed when I was an alter server during the service and the pastor knew me by name.

People would ask me why I believe in this. They tried to argue against what I believed. They didn’t believe in religion and they were so grateful their parents never “forced” them to go. However, I really grew from that experience. Along the way I learned some things that helped me deal with the haters.

1. Stick to your values!​ If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything. I was really rooted in my faith with Jesus then. I went to church happily, I even volunteered there willingly. If people hated on me or tried to argue against me and I wasn’t sticking to my beliefs, then I could’ve easily crumbled under the pressure and started to side with them. They could’ve won, but because of my strong relationship with Jesus,I was able to hold my own ground.

2. Stay on the defense, never the offense.​ You’re allowed to share your faith, in fact that is encouraged. However, don’t attack them for not believing. If I had started to ridicule them back then for not believing, I wouldn’t have gotten anywhere. They would have been pushed further from Christianity. Also, when you give bullies a reaction, you’re giving them the satisfaction of upsetting you.

3. Knowledge is power.​ Often, people judge what they don’t know or don’t understand. If you have the opportunity to have a conversation about it, then share your faith. The more people that know about Him, the more understanding and accepting the world can become.

4. Invite them.​ I wish I belonged to a youth group back then so that I could invite them out so they can see for themselves what I believe in. When movies and media paint a boring picture of the church, it was hard for me to get my friends to come out. So I encourage you to bring your haters out to youth group so they can see what it’s like before they choose to judge it.

5. Pray for them.​ God calls us to love everyone, even our enemy. So show them kindness, even on the hard days. Pray over them that they can come to know Him and that they can find the kindness in their hearts to stop treating people poorly.

“Whoever acknowledges me before others, I will also acknowledge before my Father in heaven. ​But whoever disowns me before others, I will disown before my Father in heaven.” Matthew 10: 32-33 NIV

At the end of the day, it’s your faith. It is a part of who you are. You shouldn’t be embarrassed over it, you shouldn’t be embarrassed over Jesus and how awesome He is. Embrace it regardless of what people think. Never try to push it aside to get people to like you, make sure your friends like you for who are, a Christian.

Meghan Hickey

How to Deal With Stress

Dear World Changer,

Stress is something you not only feel but you probably hear from people all time. There are different situations that cause people to stress, and it comes in a variety of forms. I think it’s easy to conclude that stress is something that will always be with us and knowing that can be discouraging. However, although there are times in life that will bring us stress, does not mean our lives need to be that way. There are two things that can help us deal with stress.

 

Know the source

Stress doesn’t just happen out of nowhere. There is always a cause behind it. School, family life, friends are examples of reasons that I’ve heard from people in my life that have brought them stress. Finding the source of stress can be hard to admit at times but once you know the reason, you put yourself in a position where you can find solutions to help you cope with it. Now, with that said some sources of stress are easier to deal with than others. Depending on the situation, you may need professional help from people such as counsellors or doctors, a pastor, or people in your life you trust. Stress is multifaceted we need to approach from all angles to ensure that we are dealing with it properly. Don’t face your stress alone, be wise in choosing people who will help you.

 

Release it

Stress has a way of consuming us inside. Therefore, releasing is an important step in moving forward. Here two ways I’ve learned to release stress. First, do something you enjoy. When I feel stressed, I like to take a walk or if the whether is not nice I’ll read a book or listen to music. Stress affects our health so doing something allows you to rejuvenate yourself.

Secondly, you need to release your stress to Jesus. The practical things I have mentioned are effective but they can only take us so far. The stress we feel in our lives is also a reflection of a deeper issue in our hearts. Jesus is the only one powerful enough to help us overcome our difficulties. In Philippians 4: 6-7 (ESV) it says:

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your request be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus”

What I love about this verse is the assurance that when we come to God with our burdens that He answers us. Although Jesus promises His peace, for us to truly experience it we must choose to accept it. What I mean is, I think when we read scripture we are comforted but don’t embrace the truth of what Jesus is saying. Remember, the Word of God is living. So, when the Lord promises something, He means it.

The stress you are fighting in your life is one Jesus is more than able to handle. So, don’t be afraid to take it to Him. By truly releasing your stress to Him, you will not be fighting it in your own strength. Stress is real but it does not have to rule our lives. There are practical things we can do but when we factor Jesus into the equation the victory is overwhelmingly ours!

Ahiney

XOXO

 

Self Confidence

Self Confidence.

 

Bah.

 

Those words alone sometimes give me the jitters.

 

Not because I feel I’m lacking it, but because I think it’s something that is a never ending issue… a never ending phrase that generation after generation of girls gets taunted with. Even me. I have had moments when I have felt so INsecure, when I felt so OVERLY secure, and when I simply haven’t been sure how I felt. And that’s the thing, regardless of our upbringing, we all face some sort of self-evaluation at some point in our lives… which sadly, will only worsen… with the ever growing, in-your-face, social media society that allows us access to so many lives – and in sometimes, very unhealthy ways.

Self-confidence is the phrase that gets thrown around so much as you journey your life as a woman. I don’t think there’s an easy answer or an easy way to prevent any one girl from asking that one, dreaded, “I wish it never existed”, question: AM I GOOD ENOUGH?

I’ll never forget the year when my life started to get more complicated.

You see, Grade 6 was the last year I remember as a year of innocence.

It was the last year I wore overalls until recently (yes, I’ve been around long enough for overalls to go OUT of fashion and BACK in… oy.)

It was the last year I remember being brave enough to sing a solo in a school play.

It was the last year I remember where everyone was friends at school and we had secret handshakes with unforgettable recesses.

It was the last year I remember before genuine social hurt entered my life.

 

Grade 7 for me was the year I remember my social life changing … Having friends decide they no longer wanted to be my friend, having hurtful words spoken over me, realizing that my face was now acne filled and my body not “picture perfect”. It was the year that I became immensely self-aware of what I WAS NOT. The pure innocence of enjoying my life as I was had ended. Sadly.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I have grown up in a VERY supportive and empowering home where my parents never spoke words of hurt or negativity over me. (I am extremely thankful for that.) But as I journeyed my teenage years, I was increasingly aware of what I was NOT…

 

Thank – you – society.

 

I think this “what we are not” focus is where it all goes south. So often we focus on what we are NOT versus what we ARE. We focus on our weaknesses, our so called flaws, our inabilities and insecurities. We forget the very essence of what we enjoyed as a child all because of what society deems as what we “should” be like.

However, as I have continued to journey through life, there IS one thing I have learned in all this: I cannot change who God created me to be.

 

End of story.

 

I am tall, blonde, and blued-eyed.

I am a middle child.

I am more introverted than extroverted.

I cannot sing. (Not sure why I got the role in Grade 6. LOL)

I am not a morning person. (No matter how much I try…sigh)

I can listen to the same song on repeat when I discover one I like.

I love eating sweet potato ANYTHING.

I get extremely anxious when I enter new social settings.

I am intolerant to gluten and dairy, and have health issues.

I love to run but health limits my endurance.

I thrive in small groups.

I could live in water. (But actually, swimming and me are like soulmates.)

I only like watching competitive sports, not playing. (Like it makes me SO anxious to play.)

I dislike cooking but love baking.

I am terrified of my car flipping over when I turn on the onramps to highways.

And, I could go on.

Now, my list above definitely included a few things that could perhaps change, but in this current moment, they are what describe who I am. And I’ve learned to embrace it, whether some of those bother me or not.

Why? Because they are not what DEFINES me.

 

God does.

 

Even as a woman in my twenties, I have moments of wishing I could change something about myself. The “God if only I had…” moments. We all have those moments, and I just as quickly remind myself of who God has made ME to be.

In Ephesians 2 it says: “For are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do” (verse 10).

In Psalm 139 it says: “Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be” (verse 16).

You see, GOD has placed each of us in a specifically tailored place, with a uniquely designed purpose. You didn’t just end up in the city you live, in the job you have, in the class you attend. Our confidence needs to come from that – from knowing that it is GOD who defines us and has placed us where we are for a reason. That he was given us those quirks, those traits, those physical features – and to Him, we’re perfect.

So, what are some things that describe you? I’ve listed a bunch of mine. Think of some of yours! Some things that make you uniquely you. The things that scare you, make you happy, make you excited. The things you once enjoyed but society has made you think you can’t enjoy anymore because they’re not “cool”. I’m so over the cool factor. Do YOU my friend. Be YOU. The crazy or goofy or loud or quiet or smart or artistic or whatever it may be, YOU. Go back to the times of your innocence when life was simple and you simply LIVED. If there’s anything you’ll regret, it’s not living life to the fullest and embracing each season. Let your confidence come from knowing that GOD does have you and your best interest in mind. Can I get an AMEN?

 

Much love from your sista in Christ,

 

Jenn

 

Trusting the Process

Dear World Changer,

If you’re like me, your life has been a series of seasons. Some were awesome, others were not so good. Some lasted what felt like forever, and others seemed to be over in no time at all. From the seasons I walked through, I have (and am continuing to) learn about how I can fully trust the Father with each season I am in. And I am so thankful to be able to share a bit of what I have learned with you in this little blog post!

A lot of what it takes to trust the process and the work that God is doing in your life is rooted in knowing who He is. If I know God and His character, then I am more likely to live and walk confidently in every season. Think about it…if you began to fully grasp how good our God is, how much He cares for you, and how awesome the plans He has for you are, wouldn’t you feel better about the future? If you understood in a real way that He sticks closer than a friend, is faithful to the end, and His plans are going to prosper you and not to harm you, wouldn’t you be able to rest confidently in the season you are in and where you’re going? The fact is this: our God works everything for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28) and every season you encounter has happened for a reason (Ecclesiastes 3:1).

So what are some ways you can start confidently shedding fear and worry and begin trusting the process? Well for starters, get in the Word and begin finding promises. The Bible is filled with promises of God’s faithfulness, His protection, His goodness and His awesome plans! Start searching for them and storing them up in your heart. When the voices of doubt and fear rise up and try to make you worry about where you’re at, knowing these verses will be your best defense.

Another thing you can do to better trust the process is pray over your future. Pray over every aspect of it. In the same way that you can combat doubt and fear through memorizing scripture and the promises of God, you can drop worry by choosing to chat with Jesus. Tell Him how you are feeling, ask Holy Spirit to show you where your peace was lost, and ask Him to help you see how He is moving in your current season. In Philippians 4, it talks about praying about everything instead of worrying about anything. So, if you feel those waves of uncertainty start to crash over you, bring it to your Heavenly Father, and His peace will replace your fears.

One last thing that is so helpful when trying to trust where and how the Lord is leading you is by remembering that He loves when you have desires and dreams. Jesus didn’t make you to be a robot, He actually designed you uniquely with dreams in your heart that He wants to fulfill. What matters to you matters to God. Let’s say you really want to get married in the future. God, in His perfect timing, will surely bring the most epic guy for you into your life. So instead of running around and dating whoever, you can rest in the promise that He put that desire in you and will take care of it when it is right to do so. Maybe you desire to go to school or have a certain career down the line. God has placed passion inside of you, so you can be sure He is going to bring you down a path that will allow you to have maximum impact on those around you in your school experience and future work…trust that He will place you exactly where you need to be!

I don’t know exactly where you want to be or where you are, and what you are facing right now, but I know this: God is for you, not against you. You can rest in the knowledge that no matter what season you find yourself in, He is faithfully walking beside you. I know that He has awesome plans for your future that are going to blow your mind and He can be trusted to fulfill His promises to you.

My prayer for you, sweet one, is that you will learn more and more each day about the heart of your Father and grow in your trust of Him and His plans. You can be sure that us leaders here at She Is Radiant blog are on your side and cheering you on, but even more than that, God is on your side! So what is there to fear about the future?

Much love,

Jenny

High School Meets Jesus

Dear World Changer,

Your high school heart gets beat down, drained and pulled in a thousand different directions. High school is hard. People are going to try to tell you your life is easy. Sure, you don’t have kids, a husband, debt, bills and all those adult parts of life that can be stressful but what you do have is a high school full of the unsaved to face. That can be daunting and complicated to navigate.
So this is for you. The you that’s in high school just trying to make it through. Let’s talk about you.
Let’s first start by talking about who you are. You are worthy.
You are beautiful.
You are capable.
You are bold.
You are loved.
You are strong.
You are needed.
You are wanted.
You are brave.
I️ know who you are even though I may not know that you’re even reading this. I know who you are because I know whose you are and who you belong to. Jesus. He calls you all of these things and so much more, and if you don’t know who you are yourself read the bible, it’ll tell you!
Let’s talk about how loved you are. Honestly, I️ heard about it again last week. All my life I’ve been told I am loved and wanted by God but it clicked in a whole new way. That’s not to say I️ didn’t believe that I️ was loved but it just sunk in on a whole new level. You and I are children of God and so often we wonder “why and how could you possibly love this” and it’s as simple as this;
He loves you because you are His. You are His child. He does not love you because of what you do or say. He simply loves you because you are His.
Even if you don’t have kids, I️ think this may hit home a bit, when a baby is born instantly that baby’s parents love him/her endlessly and without limits. There is nothing that little baby can do or say to his parents to make him love him anymore or less. He is loved because he is their child. God loves us the same and that love calls us to love others. Being in high school it is so important to fully understands God’s love for you because it is steady and unchanging. High school however is roller coaster that will sometimes be scary or painful. Being rooted and connected to Him will study you through the bumpy valley’s you’ll take. Know Him, know His character and cling to Him through it all.
Who you are paves the way for how you live, and this is where we dive into high school. More specifically, how to live as a Christian in your high school.
This world is broken. Full of broken and hurting people. Longing for so much more in life and not sure where to turn.
Here’s the most important part about being a Christian in high school; who you are says a lot about who He is.
For so many of your friends you are the only glimpse at a relationship with Jesus they will ever see. In the same way you look at a couple and instantly can see what kind of relationship they have, your friends can do the same about yours and Jesus.
Are you living out your daily life the way He has called?
Are you treating everyone as equals.
Are you respecting your teachers and parents.
Are you speaking in a way that would be honouring to him.
Are you encouraging, loving and kind.
I️ think we can all agree we’ve seen a friend or family members relationship/friendship and have hoped ours are never like that. Let’s not let our relationship with Jesus be like that.
Let’s live in a way that people see the relationship we have and crave that. That our lives would draw in a curious crowd to desire what we have and through that curiosity of freedom, love and joy doors will be opened to talk about your faith and who your God is.
I think one of the tough things about sharing Jesus in your schools is the “open door moments” and when to bring it up. So, let’s carry ourselves in a way that our friends open those doors themselves through an eagerness to have what you have.
Walk in a closeness with God that is admirable.
You’ve got this and your school needs this!
Gracie

Overcoming My Miscarriage

Dear World Changer,

We’ve been doing an “Overcoming” Series lately. Some of these posts have been about overcoming past events, and some, like this one, is learning how to overcome while you’re still walking through it.

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One month ago Kyle and I lost a baby.

It was devastating as we looked at the ultrasound and didn’t see a heartbeat. We were so excited to be parents. Every decision we had to make, we had this little babe in mind.

I told Kyle by writing “I’m pregnant” on a pizza.

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We told our parents with signs and Starbucks mugs.

 

We told our IntenCity leaders and close friends.

I’ve learned recently how many families suffer in silence when they miscarry. They tell you to wait 3 months before sharing the news for this reason. But more than anything, I’m glad we told a lot of people. I’m glad there were people to be excited with us and to mourn with us. And like any other situation whether it’s a miscarriage, going through a parents divorce, bullying, depression, anxiety…you should never suffer in silence.

We’ve learned a lot through this. A lot about ourselves, about faith, about healing. We shared this with our youth a few weeks ago and if you want to hear the “live” version, head over to IntenCity Youth’s podcast on iTunes.

We (Kyle and I), don’t share this for the “I’m sorry’s,” or the attention, or any other reason than we just want to be role models. And being a role model doesn’t mean JUST being an example in good times, but it’s being an example in the rough parts of life too. And we haven’t handled it perfectly. Not at all. But when I was younger, I would have died for someone to model how to cling to Jesus when life sucks. Because when I looked around me, when life threw a curve ball most turned to drugs and alcohol.

I don’t want to see a Christian go through good things, I want to see a Christian go through bad stuff because that really shows how tight you are with Jesus. And being tight with Jesus doesn’t mean you handle things perfectly, but it means that as you’re walking through the journey imperfectly, you’re walking with Him.

So here’s what a miscarriage has taught me.

Peace is a Thing…A Great Thing 

So often people pray that you’d have peace through sucky stuff, but rarely do we say “I accept that peace.”

I see a common pattern in how God works through cancer, divorce, death, feeling like our dreams have fallen apart etc.

It’s that a lot of the time, he calms you before He stops the circumstance.

I mean, could you imagine if He just babied us and stopped everything and attended to our every need right away? We wouldn’t grow. We wouldn’t get stronger. All through Bible College I heard the phrase “God cares more about your character than your comfort.” And boy does that ring true! And I’m glad He does. He really is a good good father.

Ever heard the term “storm” for rough seasons of life? Well, God gives peace while it’s still raining. 2 days after the ultrasound tech told us there was no heartbeat we were sitting in the doctor’s office to discuss options on how to get the baby out. And peace filled that room. Peace filled our hearts. And peace doesn’t mean you’re not crying or hurting or broken. But peace is this trust in God that you know everything is going to be okay and that He’s working behind the scenes to make everything come together for your good and you can’t see it at first but you know it’s there.

God gives peace that goes beyond our understanding. What that means it that you’re going to feel peace when it doesn’t make sense to have peace. Your world is crashing down yet you’re calm. And that’s a blessing. And I’ll say it again and again…I accept that peace.

Get Your Hopes Up

God brought me back to the story of when Jesus walks on water and Peter asked if he could walk on water too.

Peter asked Jesus “If this is really you Jesus, let me walk on water too.” And as he stepped out of the boat he saw 2 options. He saw the giant waves that could cause him to drown, and he saw Jesus. And seeing 2 options of how this could go (drowning or Jesus saving) caused doubt and that made him begin to sink.

 

We need to see one way…Jesus.

 

4 days after we got told we were miscarrying I got called into the doctor’s office immediately. My doctor looks at me and said “I’ve never seen this before, I’m 99% sure you’ve miscarried but there is this small chance your baby is alive.”

And at that moment, I had a decision to make.

Now most of you know my past. I’ve been a part of the stats since I was a kid.

I was in the 50% of kids whose parents divorce

I was the One in 20 who will experience death of a parent

I was in the 50% of families that are blended families

I was the 1 in 6 who get sexually assaulted

 

And so I just figured I would be the 20% of pregnancies that end in miscarriage.

 

***But you can’t base your theology off of your experience***

 

I was seeing 2 ways instead of one. I was seeing my baby dead and I was seeing Jesus. All my life it just seemed like if something bad was going to happen, it was coming MY way. So as a kid, I made the decision to never get my hopes up, then I would never be disappointed, and I would never have to grieve again.

I didn’t want to get disappointed. I didn’t want to get my hopes up that this baby was alive. I even told my doctor “I have zero hopes.” I didn’t want to believe in a miracle then have to grieve all over again. But I pushed myself to just see Jesus. To have the faith the size of a mustard seed and to get my hopes up (to be honest, it felt like my faith was a quarter of a mustard seed). But I prayed every 30 seconds that God would breathe life into this child. I got my hopes up.

Because faith is a RISK.

Next day it was confirmed that the baby had been dead for 3 weeks. It was a miscarriage. And I had to grieve all over again. But getting our hopes up wasn’t for nothing. It brought us to a new depth with Jesus, a new faith level.

Remember the woman in the Bible who was bleeding for 12 years? She had tried everything. She spent ALL she had on doctor’s visits getting her hopes up that she would be healed. Nothing worked. She heard Jesus was in town. I bet she had to make the decision, do I get my hopes up? There’s going to be a huge crowd, will I even get close enough? Will I even get to see him? Do I want to go through the disappointment of not being healed again?

But she got her hopes up. She fought through the crowds and crowds of people. This type of disease made you an outcast in the town. I bet she got nasty comments and hurtful glares as she ran to Jesus.

All she did was touch the edge of Jesus’ cloak and she was healed. That was worth getting her hopes up. And Jesus said, your FAITH has healed you.

Her story and mine are different. Both worth it. I got my hopes up in Jesus, he didn’t heal my baby, but he did heal Kyle and I’s heart and continues to do so.

I’ve learned not to discount the small miracles. We only see miracles one way, and if it doesn’t happen that ONE way, we don’t say it’s a miracle. But there are ALWAYS small little miracles happening. The doctors thought there was a cancer that caused the baby to die which would mean a lot of testing and doctors appointments for me. I got the results two week ago, and it was a normal pregnancy! Be grateful for the small miracles.

Your situation has to look impossible to know it was a miracle.

If you look at all the miracles in the Bible, each looked impossible. People who had lived with diseases all their lives who were so much considered outcasts that they weren’t even allowed in the town.

There was the little girl who was pronounced dead, Lazarus who was pronounced dead and even put in grave clothes!

We always think “God you showed up late, why didn’t you come WAY before this.” But it has to look impossible for us to know it’s a miracle. He is always right on time. And because of the impossibility of the situation, Jesus’ name was brought everywhere. People started to say, truly you are God!

Sit with grief

As a kid, I was the type of person that wanted to do everything perfect. So when I lost my Dad or went through anything else, I would just numb myself and act sad for “the right amount of time”, then get okay at the “right time;” the time that everyone told me. WRONG WAY of doing things!

Don’t let anyone tell you how to grieve. I used to think in my head, “stop telling me how I’m doing everything wrong, it’s not like I practiced loosing my Dad.”

And recently someone very wise (shoutouts to Pastor Shelley), told me, “sit with grief.” So this time around. We sat with grief. I picture grief like one of these guys (don’t make fun)

Inside-Out-Collage

And you need to sit with grief in your bedroom, living room, wherever. You need to cry to grief, yell at grief, ask the why questions. And eventually grief will get out of your bedroom or living room and it won’t be there anymore. But if you numb yourself to grief and ignore it, grief will always be there. And it will start to look like anger and bitterness in you.

And everyone needs to sit with grief for however long you need too. Don’t worry about people pleasing, this is YOUR life, YOUR future. Deal with grief right.

Bear each other’s burdens

Never go through something alone. We’re not built for that. We need people. And it doesn’t mean that everyone on your Facebook needs to know, but SOMEONE needs to know!

Like I mentioned above, I am so thankful people knew about this.

And because people knew, we didn’t cook a meal for over a week, flowers and chocolate were brought to our house, gifts were brought to our house, family came over and cleaned and ran errands for us.

And although it’s been one of the toughest months of our lives, it’s been easier. We’ve felt like Moses. When Moses and his army were in war with the Amalekites Moses had to keep his arms raised, he had to hold the staff. And when his arms got tired, Aaron and Hur got him a rock to sit on and they each held an arm up for him, making it easier. They took some of the weight. That’s what it feels like when we bear each other’s burdens. We NEED each other! Never suffer in silence. Don’t keep things hidden and in secret, been there and done that! And the hurt and pain lasts longer.

There has to come a time when you LET GO

It’s crazy how quickly you get attached to an unborn baby. I was SO attached! For 9 weeks I had been pregnant. I had this embryo that went everywhere with me. And when it was time for surgery, I looked at Kyle and said “I don’t want them to take the baby out. Like I’m attached to this baby. It’s mine. I didn’t want it gone.”

And it painted this picture that we get attached to our storms.

But the sooner you let go, the sooner you can move on. The sooner that baby came out, the sooner I could get healthy again.

Jesus died so we could be free. Free from the burden of losing a child, or losing a parent, of the effects of divorce, of our sin, our shame and regret. Letting go comes at different stages for everybody, but it has to come. You have a purpose, God has this huge plan for your life and you can’t do it while holding onto your past.

Turn around

Remember the story of the 10 lepers?

There were 10 people with leprosy. And this disease made you an outcast in society, so much so, that they weren’t allowed inside the town so they stood outside the gates.

Jesus came by one day. And those 10 lepers stood outside the gate yelling and begging for Jesus to heal them. And he did. Jesus said “Show yourselves to the priest, you are healed.” And as they all walked away, only ONE leper turned around to thank Jesus.

Picture the one thing in your life that you really need a miracle for, or need healing from, or that one family member. And for years and years and years you’ve been praying for that. You beg God every 5 minutes and then one day, that miracle, that healing comes. And you never thank the God who did it. Imagine how that feels?

We need to turn around and be grateful. Even if the miracle doesn’t come like mine, I was taught by God to turn around for the health I’m in – a lot of stuff could have gone wrong but it didn’t. I thanked him for my husband, for the roof over my head, for our jobs, for food.

We have a lot going for us. Turn on the news for 2 seconds and you’ll realize how much we have to be thankful for.

A Friday night (Youth) or a Sunday morning shouldn’t be the only time we thank Him. TURN AROUND

Lord I will Still Love you

Even if the healing, or the miracle doesn’t come, will you still say “Lord I will still love you?”

If you lose all your money…

If you don’t get into the school you want…

If you get diagnosed with a disease or disability…

If you lose the people you love in your life…

Will you still say, Lord I love you.

I tell our youth this all the time. Jesus needs to be more than JUST Saviour, he needs to be LORD over your life.

Yes Jesus is Saviour, but that’s not all He is. If He’s only Saviour, than to you He can fail. If you only come to Him to ask for something (save me, do this for me, redeem this, give a miracle) and He doesn’t do it, He’s failed in your eyes. But when He is also LORD over your life, He can never fail because you KNOW he’s working everything together for your good whether it looks that way or not. Whether the miracle comes or not. Whether you get healed or not. He wants more than just “do this and do that.” He wants this personal relationship, this deep connection.

Put your life in his hands. Make Him LORD over your life, not just Saviour.

 

The cover picture for this post was a photo shoot Kyle and I did not too long ago. It was supposed to be the shoot where we would announce our pregnancy. But instead, it’s a reminder that my God is good. It’s a testimony that we’re okay. Okay enough to still do the shoot. Okay because we trust in God and His plans. And okay, because when our baby first opened their eyes, they saw Jesus.

What a perfect life for that child. And one day, we’ll get to meet our little treasure in Heaven.

Pastor Natasha

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Overcoming Pride

“I don’t struggle with pride. Maybe other people do, but pride has never been a problem for me.”

 Remember when you were in grade 8 and you felt like you were at the top of the food chain? “I’m graduating this year! Goodbye, suckers! Muahaha.”

Remember how you felt when you entered grade 9? “Look at those grade 8’s…they think they’re all that!”

And then grade 10… “Puny grade 9’s! They know nothing!”

… and so on!

And it doesn’t just end after highschool. I’ve recently found myself falling into the mentality that “I have a kid now: no one else understands life at all until they have kids!”

THIS IS PRIDE. When we put ourselves above someone else in any way, it is pride. Who gives you the strength to get through school? Who gives you family? Who gives you gifts and talents, intelligence, and a brain? Who gives you breath in your lungs and allows you to live another day?

Is not everything God’s? So then we should live like it!

If this is you, and it was certainly me, I’m here to tell you that EVERYONE struggles with pride.

In my last blog I talked about overcoming fear, and in this blog, I want to share with you some insight on GOOD fear; the Fear of the Lord. In other words, when we acknowledge, respect, and revere God, it keeps us from falling into sin.

“Through love and faithfulness sin is atoned for;

through the fear of the Lord evil is avoided.” Proverbs 16:6

“Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor.” Proverbs 15:33
Let’s take a look in the bible:

 

Ever heard of King Nebuchadnezzar? He was King of Babylon when Israel was defeated and captured. He was the one who had a strange dream that only Daniel was able to interpret. And he was the one who threw “Rack, Shack, and Benny” into a fiery furnace for not bowing down to the idol. After all this he knew that God was the One True God, and yet he still took pride in believing that he had built up Babylon and that its majesty should glorify himself. But then he had another dream and Daniel interpreted that one as well. And it came true one day when King Nebuchadnezzar stood on his rooftop and proclaimed “Is not this the great Babylon I have built as the royal residence, by my mighty power and for the glory of my majesty?”

Immediately Nebuchadnezzar was driven away from people to live with wild animals and eat grass like an ox for 7 years! And at the end of that time, Nebuchadnezzar raised his eyes toward heaven, and his sanity was restored. Then he praised God and honored and glorified him and was restored as King. (Read the full story in Daniel 4)

Now fast forward to when Nebuchadnezzar is dead and his son, Belshazzar is now King. King Belshazzar worshipped the gods of silver and gold and partied a lot. Even though he knew all that his Father Nebuchadnezzar went through, he became full of pride just like his father had, and did not acknowledge that GOD was the one who allowed him to be in power and that GOD was ultimately King over ALL nations. One night he had a party – and this particular party was happening WHILE there were armies outside the walls of Babylon preparing to attack. Belshazzar knew this but put too much confidence in the protection of the city walls. (He had the attitude of entitlement, since he did not have to fight for the kingdom but inherited it from his dad. This is another form of pride.) So God sent a warning to King Belshazzar by writing on the wall of the palace. Nobody could explain the meaning, and guess who he had to call to interpret….. Daniel! And still Belshazzar in all his pride acts like he doesn’t even know who Daniel is! “Are you Daniel, one of the exiles my father the king brought from Judah?”

Uh, rude! Daniel was his father’s Chief Advisor, how does he NOT know who Daniel is?!

But Daniel interprets the writing anyways, which, to sum it up, basically tells Belshazzar that God has his days numbered and they’re up, and that the Babylonian kingdom will be divided.

And what happens? King Belshazzar continues to party! And later that night, the Medes and Persians attack and capture Babylon, and they kill Belshazzar. (Read the full story in Daniel 5)

So here we have two stories of pride. Father and son stories.

The father’s story teaches us that pride cannot be dealt with on our own. Only God can humble us, and if we are willing to listen to Him, he will restore us.

The son’s story shows us that pride, not dealt with, comes before a fall, as it says in Proverbs 16:18: “Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.”

To sum it all up, here are 3 steps on how to Overcome Pride:

 

  1. Fear God – acknowledge and revere his power and authority over ALL CREATION. “The heart of man plans his way, but the LORDestablishes his steps.” Proverbs 16:9

 

  1. Confess Pride – “However, you must confess that you have done wrong, and that you have rebelled against the LORD your God. You must confess that you have given yourself to foreign gods under every green tree, and have not obeyed my commands,’ says the LORD.” Jeremiah 3:13

 

  1. Learn humility – Janet Chismar says it well: It is our nature to be proud and it is God’s nature in us that brings humility. Committing to a lifestyle of daily dying to ourselves and living through Him is the foundation for true humility.

“Then he said to the crowd, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross daily, and follow me.”’ Luke 9:23

Miriam

Overcoming Fear

Dear World Changer,

Fall is such a busy season, for everyone, for many different reasons! For many it’s the beginning of a new school year, along with preparing for upcoming holidays such as thanksgiving and Christmas! (Woops, I said the “C” word :P) And many of us really don’t want to be thinking that far ahead. But I just LOVE fall. It’s my favourite season; the colours of the trees, the smell of the crisp air, the warm drinks and desserts, and of course, the cuddles! Not only do I love the way it looks and feels, I also love what it represents: a new season! However, there are many negative things that come with a new season; the fear of change, the fear of failure, the fear of rejection… the common denominator being FEAR.

How can we be ready to do what God is calling us to do if we let our fear hold us back?

I mean, there’s so much to fear in life, right? What do others think of me? Will I say the right thing? Will I do the right thing? If I mess up, will it ruin my life? Where will I end up? Will I make enough money? Will I be happy? Do people even care about me? How do I make a difference?

It’s overwhelming. Fear is the sole reason for all of our worries, and we’ve become so accustomed to feeling worry and fear that we actually believe it is okay because everyone fears and worries, and how can we not?

Well, I’m not a bible scholar or a seminary graduate of any kind, nor do I consider myself perfect. But today I do hope to share with you some insight for how to overcome the natural human tendency to fear. And as I remind you of these things, I am also reminding myself. For it is seldom that I go even a day without consciously realizing I’m stuck in my negative thoughts of worry.

First of all, we can be sure that God did not create us to worry. In the beginning with Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, everything was as it should be, and our relationship with God was flawless. It even talks of them walking WITH God through the garden! However, when the Devil (or serpent) tempted Eve and then Adam to sin, their eyes were opened to their nakedness and they hid from God out of FEAR. (Genesis 1-3) So from this we see that fear came from sin and that it was not meant to be.

It was fear of the ‘giants’ that caused the Israelites to wander in the desert for 40 years instead of entering into the promised land. (Numbers 13:17-14:35)

It was fear that caused Peter to begin to sink when he was already walking on the water toward Jesus. (Matthew 14:22-33)

It was worry that caused people to sin because they would put too much emphasis on the things they didn’t have or the things they needed rather than trusting that God will provide. (Luke 12:22-34)

Sin causes fear and fear causes sin. And we begin to reap the consequences of our actions, such as not being at peace, struggling with anxiety, getting physically sick from stress, and even such things as depression if we dwell too long on the things that we should not!

 

So how do we stop ourselves??

 

Here is one of my favourite passages of scripture on overcoming fear: (I know it’s long but please read the whole thing, it will be such a blessing!)

Psalm 91
Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High
will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.
I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress,
my God, in whom I trust.”

Surely he will save you
from the fowler’s snare
and from the deadly pestilence.
He will cover you with his feathers,
and under his wings you will find refuge;
his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.
You will not fear the terror of night,
nor the arrow that flies by day,
nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness,
nor the plague that destroys at midday.
A thousand may fall at your side,
ten thousand at your right hand,
but it will not come near you.
You will only observe with your eyes
and see the punishment of the wicked.

If you say, “The Lord is my refuge,”
and you make the Most High your dwelling,
no harm will overtake you,
no disaster will come near your tent.
For he will command his angels concerning you
to guard you in all your ways;
they will lift you up in their hands,
so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.
You will tread on the lion and the cobra;
you will trample the great lion and the serpent.

“Because he loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him;
I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.
He will call on me, and I will answer him;
I will be with him in trouble,
I will deliver him and honor him.
With long life I will satisfy him
and show him my salvation.”

 

This is amazing imagery! God is our Protector no matter what we’re going through! If that doesn’t give you confidence – that Jesus always has your back – I don’t know what does!

Not only does this passage give us a vivid explanation on how He will deliver us, it also is quite clear on what we can do to keep our thoughts from wandering to fearful and worrisome thoughts: Calling on Him! We are to admit aloud that we need Him and constantly remind ourselves of His promises.
So here are more of His promises:

 

“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart, I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

 

“Fear not, for  I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10

 

“There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been made perfect in love.” 1 John 4:18

 

“[Cast] all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7

 

“The weapons we fight with are the not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” 2 Corinthians 10:4-5

 

Therefore, make every effort to attain self-control, control of the mind and of the spirit and of the body, memorizing scripture, and calling on God to keep yourself from fear, anxiety, and worry. Learn to be content in any and every situation that you may be focused on praising His name rather than worrying about what’s coming next.

 

Overcoming fear is a constant journey but it makes change and transitions so much easier when we trust in God to take care of all of our needs. Oh how the world would look so different if no one ever worried.  I pray this for you and for me today and always, that we may be the change and all would see our peace and joy. I know that “my God will meet all of your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus”. (Philippians 4:19)

 

“To God our Father be glory for ever and ever. Amen.” (Philippians 4:20)

 

Miriam

 

Overcoming Low Self-Esteem

Dear World Changer,

I was the kid in school who would never raise my hand to answer a question or even ask a question, I was afraid to be called on in class because that meant I would have to speak in front of a the class and potentially make a fool of myself, so I thought. After I would get a mark back from a school presentation comments by teachers included “give more eye contact to the audience” or “speak louder”, this lowered my mark and my confidence.

I was always quickly labeled as the shy, quiet, but sweet girl. After a while I allowed this “label” to define my worth, that whatever I would say or do was not worthy, therefore kept my feelings and thoughts to myself. I would often compare myself to others “why can’t I be as funny and outgoing as she is” or “how can I be as pretty as she is”. I remember I would come home sometimes and cry because I was honestly socially drained. I literally asked God is there something wrong with me but realized I was asking the wrong question instead God how can you use me in the situation I am in?

After many years comparing myself to others and trying to be somebody I was not only left me going in a downward spiral. I woke up one day and realized that being quite and more in the background was my personality and it is not a “bad thing” it is how God created me and has given me the gift of patience and being quiet which enables me to be a good listener.

When we think negatively about ourselves or have self -doubt we are actually criticizing one of God’s creations. When we preserve ourselves in God’s eyes it will change our attitude and actions. When I began to look through the lens of God my confidence boosted and actions took place.

In ladders years of high school I got the chance to be the back stage manager of the school plays, where I learned many skills and had a blast getting to know the actors and crew. I was definitely not the one to be in the spotlight but managing the stage was a huge responsibility.

I developed a passion for children. I may have been shy with my peers but when talking with children my confidence grows.

I began to open up and be transparent with people, which led to a best friend who I now get to call my husband.

Of course I continuously work in strengthening my weaknesses for example public speaking and verbal communication but I had to learn not to let the “labels” and the lies get me off track with my relationship with God and consume my thought life because that only blinds me from the opportunities God wants to use me in. I think its good to admit your low- self -esteem days but bring it to the feet of Jesus and allow him to strengthen you. I did not get to the place I am overnight it took self-discipline to change my attitude and thought life towards how I perceived myself. It took humility to humble myself before God. This is a continuous battle I face, I still face it but I know what scriptures to run to now and the discipline I need to turn the situation around.

I felt compelled in sharing a few tips in how to cope with low self-esteem and know you are not alone when dealing with this.

Coping with low self- esteem tips

 Understanding the source

Make note of confidence-damaging sources. For example social media, comments others make, and negative thought life. By identifying the sources of confident boosters and confident downers allows you to take action in how to deal the “bad” sources.

Taking care of yourself

It is important to take care of yourself for you are a precious temple of God.

By exercising, getting proper sleep, and eating healthy.

Limit social media use and how you use social media

How others portray you on social media sites/apps does not define you!

It is easy to end up spending an hour on social media sites like Instagram, comparing yourself to others. We sometimes don’t intentionally go in looking for the best dressed on your feed but it begins to leak in subconsciously. Take time to “detox” and unplug from constant online interactions.

Change of mindset by naming the lies and proclaiming the truth!

This is key in overcoming low self-esteem! Write down negative thoughts you may have and right next to it write the truth that is in scripture or a positive thought.

For example “I am not worthy” instead “I am worthy”. Below are only a few scriptures that proclaim truth about who we are in Christ.

 

 

“ I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful I know that full well.” Psalm 139:14

 

“So God created human beings in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27

 

“Since you are precious and honoured in my sight, and because I love you I will give nations in exchange for you” Isaiah 43:4

 

By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise also. 1Corinthians 6:14

 

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is- his good, pleasing will. Romans 12:2

 

“Yet all who did receive him, to those who believe in his name, he gave the right to become children of God” John 1:12

 

“No, the Father himself loves you because you have loved me and believed that I came from God” John 16:27

 

“For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.” Colossians 1:13-14

 

 

Overall stay true to yourself and your identity as a child of God. Remember we are ambassadors on this earth representing the Kingdom of God 2 Corinthians 5:20.

Remember like I said before you are NOT ALONE, each of your big sisters has a story and I am sure many of you have stories of hitting a low point. Lets unite together as sisters in Christ and fight this battle, by encouraging, praying, and loving one another.

 

“Don’t let anybody dull your sparkle”

 

With Love,

Maddy